No commitment. No paperwork. A conversation to see if working together feels right.
Something has shifted — and you’re not sure who you are on the other side of it
It might have been a diagnosis. A relationship ending. A loss. A career that collapsed. A future you’d quietly assumed — that simply didn’t arrive.
Whatever brought you here, the experience underneath is often the same: a version of yourself you no longer recognise. A life that no longer fits the map you were following.
Some days the emotions are overwhelming. Other days you push through just to function.
Outwardly, you may still be coping. Privately, you’re carrying something most people around you can’t quite see — the quiet weight of a life that didn’t go as expected. The grief of a future you’d planned for. The exhaustion of managing uncertainty, day after day.
This is not weakness. This is what it feels like when life asks more of you than you expected to give.
HOW THERAPY HELPS
What we work on together
Therapy for unwanted life change isn’t about forcing acceptance, or returning to who you were before.
It’s about understanding what has happened — making sense of your emotional responses — and finding a way forward that feels genuinely yours.
In our work together, I help you:
— Process grief, loss, and the future you expected — without pressure to “move on”
— Understand and manage the emotional reactivity that makes everyday life feel exhausting
— Rebuild your sense of self when your previous identity no longer fits
— Develop the capacity to sit with uncertainty without being consumed by it
— Identify where you still have choice — and take steps that feel meaningful, even now
My approach draws on ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy) and CBT, adapted to the specific experience of adjustment and identity disruption. Collaborative, evidence-based, and paced to you — meeting you where you are now, not where you think you should be.
Who I work with
I work with adults who are navigating a life that didn’t go as expected — and who are finding the emotional weight of that harder to carry than they anticipated.
This includes people affected by:
Chronic illness and long-term health conditions Including cancer, Long COVID, CFS/ME, multiple sclerosis, fibromyalgia, POTS, adenomyosis, and medically unexplained symptoms — and the identity loss, grief, and uncertainty that so often accompany them.
Grief and bereavement Including loss of a person, a relationship, a role, or a future you’d planned for.
Relationship breakdown Divorce, separation, and the profound identity disruption that follows the end of a significant relationship.
Career loss or transition Redundancy, burnout, or the loss of a professional identity that formed a significant part of who you are.
Infertility and pregnancy loss The grief and identity disruption of a future that didn’t arrive as expected.
Caregiver stress and burnout The emotional cost of caring for someone you love — and losing sight of yourself in the process.
Major life transitions of any kind When the ground has shifted and you’re not sure who you are now.
If your situation isn’t listed here, that doesn’t mean I can’t help. I work with the emotional experience of unwanted change — not just specific circumstances.
I offer specialist online therapy to adults in the UK, Ireland, and internationally — including those living abroad who need English-language psychological support.
WHAT CLIENTS BEGIN TO NOTICE
Therapy doesn’t erase the challenges you face. But over time, many clients begin to notice:
— Greater understanding of their own thoughts, feelings, and emotional responses
— More space between a feeling and a reaction — less emotional reactivity
— The ability to be with difficult emotions without being overwhelmed by them
— A clearer sense of what matters — and small but meaningful steps toward it
— A life that feels more intentional, even within circumstances that remain uncertain
You didn’t choose what happened. But you can learn to live meaningfully alongside it.
Dr Louise Fletcher
Counselling Psychologist
I’ve spent over a decade working with adults whose lives have been reshaped by illness, loss, and circumstances they didn’t choose.
What that experience has taught me is that the hardest part is rarely the practical adjustment. It’s the loss of your sense of self. The quiet, unacknowledged grief for the person you expected to be.
My work focuses on exactly that — helping you process what has changed, make sense of your emotional responses, and find a way forward that feels genuinely yours. Not just a version of coping.
I’m UK-trained and registered, and I work with clients online across the UK, Ireland, and internationally.
If any of this resonates, I’d welcome a conversation.
HCPC Registered · Chartered Member, British Psychological Society · Professional Doctorate in Counselling Psychology, City University of London
Ready to talk? You don’t need to have it figured out.
A discovery call is 20 minutes — no paperwork, no commitment, and no pressure to continue.
It’s simply a chance to talk, ask questions, and see whether working together feels like the right fit.
You don’t need to know exactly what to say. You just need to begin.